I will throw this out there. Was talking to an old friend of my fathers. They met in the early 80's when there was a sit in at the Board of Education. My dad was Chairman of Board of Education and Mr Steele represented the other side. The topic, integration of the schools. Whites and Blacks. Rev Steele is a Black man. So you can see where this was going. This lasted for days. There was very ugly talk by many involved. On Saturday the people outside had a bunch of food brought in.. my Dad walked up to Mr Steele (there were not friends, tensions were high) and commented on how good the food looked. Mr Steele asked if he wanted any. He said yes. Mr Steel got him a plate (BBQ of course) expected my dad to go off and eat. Instead my Dad went and sat down next to Mr Steele and they just started "Talking, and did not stop talking". They came to mutual solutions. Charles Steele told me this story at the funeral. He told me he has told this story all over the world. He is the President of the SCLC. A comment was made a few post above about keeping dialog open. I do agree with that statement.